Plura

Queer (+ Kinky) Speed Dating + Comedy

Tired of apps, but don't know where to meet the queer cutie of your dreams? Come for the QUEER COMEDY, stay for the speed dating!

About this event

Come for the QUEER COMEDY, stay for the speed dating! Tired of apps, but don't know where to meet the queer cutie of your dreams? 

Every other month, Queer Speed Dating becomes Queer and KinkySpeed Dating. Just like sexuality and gender, kink is also fluid. Even though we may at some point label ourselves as kinky or not, Dominant or not, or switchy or not, doesn't mean we have to stay in that binary or define ourselves by it. Community is such a pillar of both the kink and Queer collectives, think of this as a great opportunity to meet a new partner in kink crime, or meet new kinky friends to go to events with! 

:: This months featured comedian is DYLAN ADLER ::

In our own queer take on musical chairs, each person will have a certain amount of time to talk before the music plays and the group rotates. Each party will get a "Like" List where they can mark the people they vibed with - whether that be in a friend way or maybe more! You will have the option to give your details to any person on your dating card to let them know you may be interested. This leaves opportunity to make friends, as well as potential love connections! Like lists will be submitted to the organizers we'll send out preferred methods of contact to the person(s) you liked!

Each person will fill out a name tag with their pronouns and have a number assigned to them to correlate with the speed dating. 

You will be asked to self-identify based on the categories below.

Dom/me/mx (or Top) - A Dom/me/mx is someone who enjoys being on the dominant side of a power dynamic. A top is someone who enjoys the "doing" or "giving" in a kink scenario without an established power dynamic.

Sub (or Bottom) - A sub is someone who enjoys being on the dominant side of a power dynamic. A top is someone who enjoys the "receiving" in a kink scenario without an established power dynamic.

Switch - A switch is someone who can either identify as a Dom/me/mx, sub, top, or bottom in any given scenario. This may depend on their partner, their mood, the activity, or something else!

??? - If you have absolutely no idea what category above you fit into, this is the category for you! Like sexuality and gender, kink is also fluid. You may change your identity over time or as you learn more about yourself and being "unknown" is a wonderful place to start learning!

Will I be matched / speed dated based on my sexual orientation and/or gender identity?

Nope! We recognize that sexuality and identity are fluid and often a journey. We do not wish to box anyone in and we believe each person has their own story to tell. You will be divided at random talking to many people. We strongly believe that you should be able to talk to people you don't want to boink.

What if only men/women/trans/gay/lesbian/bi/dom/sub people show up?

This is an all-inclusive event. We're not trying to fill a certain quota of gender identity or sexuality. Again, at the very least you get to watch an entertaining show and maybe meet someone who doesn't suck. We're giving you a good time with a good show, but we're not guaranteeing you'll walk out with a date. You can hire a SW for that.

What if I'm not queer enough?

You don't have to be enough of anything nor do you have a be a certain height to ride the rides. This is a great space to meet more folx even if you're still figuring out who you are.

What if I'm not kinky enough?

No such thing! There is no minimum amount of experience or education to attend this event. In fact, it is a fabulous place to learn more about kink and make new kink friends!

What do I do with my hands?

We have "Like lists" that you will fill out and return to us by the end of the night. If you're in need of conversation starters, each round starts with an optional prompt.

What if there were people I wanted to meet who didn't wind up in my speed dating rotation? 

Starr Bar is open until 2AM, so feel free to stay afterwards and mingle with those you haven't met. Or you can talk shit about the event, we're not particular!

What if I really like the person but they don't like me? Can I find them on Instagram/Twitter/Tiktok juuuust to make certain?

That's life, buddy. Things don't always work out as we want. If both persons got on with each other we'll notify each of you separately to exchange desired info. Otherwise, take it as a fun single experience and lay it to rest. That also means - don't seek them out on social platforms if they didn't show interest. That's creepy.

**There is a zero-tolerance policy for transphobia, racism, ableism, fatphobia, body shaming, misogyny, or just generally being an asshole.

Schedule of Events

7:00 - 7:30 Doors

7:30 - QUEER COMEDY

8:00 - QUEER SPEED DATING